The Structural Integrity of the Brain with NPD is Compromised

The cognitive dissonance in a relationship with an NPD partner is substantial, but perhaps it’s all in their head. Literally.

In recent years, we can actually see narcissism in the brain shown in imaging tests like MRIs and CT scans. People who suffer from narcissistic personality disorder have structural abnormalities…

The Black Hole After Narcissistic Abuse

Mike Von

“Now I lay me down to sleep

I pray the Lord my soul to keep

if I should die before I wake

I pray the Lord my soul to take.”

It’s been almost 2 years since the end of my marriage to a narcissistic psychopath. In the aftermath of his…

We are the sum total of our experiences and define ourselves by what we do and who we love.

“My Philosopher Queen” by B. Pesqueda

My identity has been forged by a number of things. Life was not kind to me as a bi-racial female growing up in the Texas Panhandle in the 60’s and ’70s. Not only was the environment inhospitable to say the least, but my family was also plagued with mental illness…

I married a disordered, anti-social, bi-sexual, godless, teenage, psychopathic narcissist, man-whore — And it lasted sixteen mind-blowing years.

Zulmaury Saavedra

What is Wrong with me?

Everybody knows about patterns of abuse and dysfunction. Dr. Phil talks about it. Oprah talks about it. Mainstream pop-psych talks about it.

It’s simple, actually. My father was absent, and my mother was crazy.

So I married crazy. Twice.

They say you marry your parents. And that is exactly what…

My Narcissist — A Supreme Predator

Nathan Dumlao

Incy Wincy spider climbing up the spout.
Down came the rain, and washed poor Incy out.
Up came the sun, and dried up all the rain
And Incy Wincy spider went climbing up again.

They cannot change. They are what they are.

The world’s most fascinating predator.

The arachnid.


A Boolicious Hallows Eve Tale

When the Lights Go Out at NarcLand Amusement Park, Things Get Creepy Fast

David Menidrey @unsplash

So here we are at the season of the witch. Halloween, the spookiest of boo times is upon us once again. Candied apples. Pumpkin patches. Pumpkin spice. Yum. But also death and torture. Fear and suffering. Ghosts and vampires. You know, kinda like the aftermath of life with a narcissist.

Concrete Science-Based Reasons Why Leaving an Abusive or Relationship with a Narcissistic Sociopath Can Be So Hard

“Lost in LaLa Land” credits: ppesqueda bpesqueda

I never understood why abused people stay with their partners. I was always critical of their choice to remain with their tormentors, subject their children to horrible things, and just keep getting off the ground, trembling, bloody-faced, only to say, “May I have another, sir?” I judged them harshly as…

Prajinta Pesqueda

Educator, aspiring humanist, composer of words. Survivor, warrior, healer, believer. Contact me at

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