After the Narcissist Abandons and Deletes All Memory of You, You Can Reimagine a New Life — Tabula Rasa — Yes, there are two paths you can go by, but in the long run And there’s still time to change the road you’re on- Stairway to Heaven Some aspects of life are beyond your control, and I am reminded of that once again as a friend recently drew this card…

The Structural Integrity of the Brain with NPD is Compromised — The cognitive dissonance in a relationship with an NPD partner is substantial, but perhaps it’s all in their head. Literally. In recent years, we can actually see narcissism in the brain shown in imaging tests like MRIs and CT scans. People who suffer from narcissistic personality disorder have structural abnormalities…

The Black Hole After Narcissistic Abuse — “Now I lay me down to sleep I pray the Lord my soul to keep if I should die before I wake I pray the Lord my soul to take.” It’s been almost 2 years since the end of my marriage to a narcissistic psychopath. In the aftermath of his…

We are the sum total of our experiences and define ourselves by what we do and who we love. — My identity has been forged by a number of things. Life was not kind to me as a bi-racial female growing up in the Texas Panhandle in the 60’s and ’70s. Not only was the environment inhospitable to say the least, but my family was also plagued with mental illness…

The Quixotic Search for Life and Meaning in the Frozen Wasteland of a Narcissist’s Core — The life of a person who suffers from narcissistic personality disorder is a fractured fairy tale, and in that fiction (s)he is always the hero. As the partner in the shared fantasy begins to bring the real world into their delusional bubble, the narcissist feels betrayed. The shared fantasy becomes…

Being on the receiving end of narcissistic abuse is like wearing a scarlet letter (A for abused). Potential dating prospects run away like we are possessed, and in many ways we are. — Dear Potential Prospect, I get it. When you know what we have experienced in a relationship with a full blown legit narcissist, your knee jerk reactions is that we must be damaged, crazy, toxic, ruined, baggage, broken, hopeless — so you do what any cautious person would do. . …

The narcissist uses enmeshment to engulf their prey — “Can you feel the icy embrace as the levels of gloom start to rise, swallowing you up bit by bit? Are you aware of the advancing chasm as it swallows up your family, wrenching them away from you consigning them to oblivionThe engulfing darkness causes them to vanish and even…

A Common Challenge for Those Trying to Reintegrate — Every survivor of narcissistic abuse experiences feelings of isolation, loneliness, and disconnection throughout the different stages of the healing process. This is perfectly normal and to be expected. Narcissistic abuse victims are also likely to put up walls in their new relationships to keep themselves safe. …

We reinvent ourselves many times, but the narcissist cannot. What do we do with this nefarious fact? — Dr. Sam Vaknin so aptly says, ”People are like a rivers, not ponds.” We are in a constant state of flux, evolving, adapting. It is sometimes difficult to, accept or believe that the people who enter our lives are only temporarily that version of themselves. Overtime, they will re-construct portions…