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When I am Alone, I Disappear
Abandonment Issues and Attachment Disorders
Conversations with a traumatized inner child
The Inner Child is the echo of the child you were a long time ago. It is an imprint, a signature on your soul. Everyone has been influenced by their environment, the important people in our lives, and by the things that happen to them. Our inner child is the keeper of those memories, and they are stored in our minds and bodies and influence our lives in profound ways.
Imagine that your inner child has stored every memory, experience, feeling, and message in a vault with thousands of tiny boxes, all tucked away and organized and carefully compartmentalized. In this storage chamber resides our self-esteem, personal image, family trauma, epigenetics, shame and secrets, hopes and fears — all the things that forge our identities and our perceptions of the world we live in.
As we become adults, this warehouse comes with us and colors our reactions, relationships, and more. If the things we kept in all the little boxes were rooted in toxicity, insecurity, instability, fear, and trauma, the adult will filter everything through the lens of this stored cache. Ideally, the child has been nurtured by healthy, happy caregivers who instilled all the qualities and skills necessary for the…
