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What Keeps Us From Dying of a Broken Heart
You will need a recovery toolbox filled with many different things to help navigate the rough waters that follow a traumatic loss. These tools could include energy work, scripture based study, support groups, traditional therapy, medication, and more. It’s the fght of your life, and you need to arm yourself with anything and everything you can in order to do battle for your life.
Seven months ago when my covert narc-ex left me after a lengthy marriage, I thought I would die of a broken heart. I say that without a shred of self-pity, histrionics, or overdramatization. I believed I would literally cease to exist for almost two months. And while that period of devastation and despair differs for everyone, it is a dark time when there is a real and present danger of not surviving the loss.
In a way, we die. Our partners plunge a dagger deep into the softest parts of our hearts and soul, and we die. And only then can we be reborn and repurposed into a stronger and better version of ourselves. And make no mistake, not everyone makes it to a place of happiness and wellness after something so catastrophic. Some fall wounded and bleeding on the battlefield and simply cannot summon the strength to continue. It could be a physical defeat or something more insidious like an emotional slaughter. Sometimes what doesn’t kill us just makes us wish we were dead.
