The Narcissist is a Cannibal

They consume you and assimilate you and become you

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The narcissist gobbles you up to fill their insatiable emptiness.

(Trigger alert)

There are tools the narcissist uses to slowly nibble away at their victim until there is nothing left. Conditioning is a vital part of the process. Itermittent reinforcement is their weapon of choice. It can be defined is when a receiving party receives regular signals and treatment that are cruel, apathetic, sadistic, dis-empathic and so forth, then at intervals interspersed with reward which is disorienting and causing cognitive dissonance. When abuse is bound together with pain and pleasure, contradictory signals and hot and cold behavior is shown which rejects then nurtures, despises then loves. . . it is impossible to reconcile.

The ideas discussed in this article were inspired from a lecture by Dr. Sam Vaknin and are my attempts to distill his main points.

The narcissist devours you like a cannibal by conditioning you, breaking you, and then harvesting your parts and consuming them completely.

Approach avoidance compulsion repetition is a common ingredient in this toxic stew. This push-pull, love you-hate you, is intense and allows the victim to experience a flood of dopamine which is the…