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Stop Re-traumatizing Victims of Narcissistic Abuse
There are many reasons they cannot ‘just get over it’, and your reactions may be causing additional harm
It’s like telling a person with no limbs, “Just get up and walk.”
How is that going to happen?
They have no legs. They need prosthetics, assistive devices, physical therapy, and many more forms of support to get moving. It would be cruel and insensitive to blurt out such an absurd suggestion based on your lack of knowledge about it.
Narcissistic abuse recovery is not your typical generic run of the mill disentanglement or unpairing. It is something else entirely.
These unfortunate souls have been merged and fused with a pathologically disordered individual who infected them with their sickness.
According to the enlightened Robert Torbay,
“The narcissist is undead, decaying, fetid, a grinning eater of brains, a wide eyed devourer of the human heart — something quite demonic — Serial soul killers.
Serial cheating allows a constant current of wicked electricity to animate the corpse that is the narcissist. Eventually, once they have consumed the spirit of one partner, they can migrate to the sidepiece, at which point they find a new partner to “officially” cheat with, just to keep the current surging along their burned out nervous system.”
This is what we are dealing with.
This characterization of a person with NPD is grounded in truth. They exist in an alternate reality, a fiction of their own construction, and this fantastical narrative is real to them in every way. They actually believe they are the victim as their scrambled brains confabulate a new history that never happened and a new present reality that has no authentic truth in it.
Now, capture this image in your mind as you imagine “an innocent” stumbling upon the narcissist in sheep’s clothing. This person is love hungry and easily bedazzled by the narcissists’ weapons of mass seduction. They become dizzy with their thirst for what the narcissist appears to offer and find themselves “hooked” and bamboozled before they even know what hit them. The fuel they…
