Please know that I am not victim blaming, and I am sorry it seemed as if I were. It is very important that were understand the difference between knowing we were victimized and doing what we need to do by turning inward and healing in ways we will never be vulnerable again and accepting an identify as a "victim." This is very dangerous since victimhood often becomes our identity and we get stuck there.

It is not our fault that they did what they did to us. They victimized us.

I never implied that they are not predators and life threatening dangers to everyone who gets too close.

We must reject the victim label. Please read more research to understand why we must do this. I hope that explains what I was trying to say.