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Oops, I Did It Again
“No Contact” Fails and the Reasons Behind Them
Okay, we’ve all done it.
An important relationship ends, you understand why going “no contact” is necessary for your recovery and mental health, but then there is a vulnerable moment. A text is one click away. You pause. It’s like holding a grenade with the pin in. You don’t want to do it. But then again, you can’t stop yourself. In an instant, everything is blown to smithereens.
In the beginning, It becomes painfully clear that going “no contact” with a partner that has abandoned you, brutally discarded you, and left you for dead is the only way to regain any shred of sanity or dignity and get on with your life. The narcissist/psychopath feels no guilt or remorse for casting you into the deep end with the weight of his apathy dragging you to the bottom, and since you are dealing with an individual who is incapable of empathy or compassion, there is absolutely no reason to justify reaching out to them. The best thing you can do is to just pretend they died. In a sense, they did. That version of themselves, the false facade they maintained during your relationship was just that — false.
