Object Constancy & Whole Object Relations — The Root of All Narcissistic Personality Disorders

How can it be?

How can a person with NPD treat you with such loving care for months, years, or even decades, then suddenly out of the blue treat you with such hatred and contempt? You have done absolutely nothing to invite the abrupt change. It is a humiliating, confusing, dehumanizing, extinction level experience.

You have been cast out of the garden without explanation. You are banished from the shared fantasy kingdom, and when you hit the ground with a thunderous crash, it is a disorienting surrealistic moment as you survey the ugly lack of color in this thing called reality. The dream is over as you soon begin to realize as you wake from the slumber that kept you away for so long.

How could they something so nonsensical? And why would they be so cruel?

It is the narcissistic cycle of idealize, devalue, discard. And it is the Holy Grail of pathological narcissism — so it is and so it will always be.

And the cycles come back to how the narcissist is hardwired, vacant inside, and physiologically developmentally impaired with brain disorders that can actually be seen on brain scans. They are not like a neurotypical person. They are alien, damaged, hollow, impaired, and incapable of…