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Look20/20 in 2020
New year, old issues
Ending love addiction, irrational thinking, and emotional compulsions to achieve healing and wholeness after a relationship with a disordered partner.
I don’t believe in New Years’s resolutions, but if I did, I would certainly have a few this year. 2019 was pretty much the worst year of my entire life, and I have had a long life and a ton of bad things happen to me. But the aftermath following a brutal discard by my covert narcissist husband in June took the remainder of the year straight to hell and then some. Nearly seven months later, I am still fighting a mighty battle to recover. So here we go . . . Five resolutions for healing.
#5. Figure out how to do the self-care journey. It is a maze of little twists and turns with hundreds of jigsaw pieces, but it is a necessary piece of recovery from abuse. Find what works for you. Perhaps it is physical activity and nature all around you. Maybe it’s writing or dancing or painting or crafts. I collected river rocks and painted them for a few months to stave off the anxiety attacks and irrational thinking. It only worked for maybe 30 minutes, but that was 30 minutes I could take a break from the grief. I also started writing more. . . a lot more.
#4. Learn to be alone. I was one of those girls with attachment issues and addictions to people, so my…
