Letter to Potential New Partners

Being on the receiving end of narcissistic abuse is like wearing a scarlet letter (A for abused). Potential dating prospects run away like we are possessed, and in many ways we are.

Dear Potential Prospect,

I get it.

When you know what we have experienced in a relationship with a full blown legit narcissist, your knee jerk reactions is that we must be damaged, crazy, toxic, ruined, baggage, broken, hopeless — so you do what any cautious person would do. . . you run away.

I’ve thought about changing my name, ending my endless stream of articles and podcasts and social media posts and Quora responses and constant content about narcissists and what they do to you. But that would imply that I am guilty of something or that I have something to feel ashamed of or something to hide.

Well, I’m not guilty, and the shame is not mine.

What do you think is going to happen if you get too close?

Catch fire because I am a conflagration of pain and sadness and anger all rolled into a wall of flames that burn out of control like a wildfire?