Published in The Virago·PinnedMember-onlyRecovering from Trauma While the World BurnsThe Added Challenges of Recovery Amidst an Ongoing Pandemic, a Genocidal War, Dangerous Climate Changes, Home-Grown Terror, and Economic Disaster — 2019 was the tipping point — my husband abandoned our lengthy marriage, and the world began to unravel at an alarming pace. It was June 18th, 2019 when it all began, this descent into hell, and it has continued ever since. Things will never return to “that kind of normal”…Narcissistic Abuse8 min readNarcissistic Abuse8 min read
PinnedMember-onlyRe-write Your Story with a Happy EndingAfter the Narcissist Abandons and Deletes All Memory of You, You Can Reimagine a New Life — Tabula Rasa — Yes, there are two paths you can go by, but in the long run And there’s still time to change the road you’re on- Stairway to Heaven Some aspects of life are beyond your control, and I am reminded of that once again as a friend recently drew this card…Love5 min readLove5 min read
Published in Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Collaborators·PinnedMember-onlyThe Scrambled Brain of the NarcissistThe Structural Integrity of the Brain with NPD is Compromised — The cognitive dissonance in a relationship with an NPD partner is substantial, but perhaps it’s all in their head. Literally. In recent years, we can actually see narcissism in the brain shown in imaging tests like MRIs and CT scans. People who suffer from narcissistic personality disorder have structural abnormalities…Narcissism7 min readNarcissism7 min read
PinnedMember-onlyStuck in the BadlandsThe Black Hole After Narcissistic Abuse — “Now I lay me down to sleep I pray the Lord my soul to keep if I should die before I wake I pray the Lord my soul to take.” It’s been almost 2 years since the end of my marriage to a narcissistic psychopath. In the aftermath of his…Recovery10 min readRecovery10 min read
Published in About Me Stories·PinnedMember-onlyAbout Me — Prajinta PesquedaWe are the sum total of our experiences and define ourselves by what we do and who we love. — My identity has been forged by a number of things. Life was not kind to me as a bi-racial female growing up in the Texas Panhandle in the 60’s and ’70s. Not only was the environment inhospitable to say the least, but my family was also plagued with mental illness…Narcissism6 min readNarcissism6 min read
2 days agoMember-onlyHow Attachment Styles Impact Trauma RecoveryAll people discover if they can depend on others to keep them safe or not, and this all begins at a very early age. Your nervous system either grows with the idea you’re inherently, intrinsically lovable and protected, or it drives you to learn coping mechanisms to deal with emotional…Narcissism5 min readNarcissism5 min read
Mar 20Member-onlyYour Child Should Be a NarcissistNPD is a Necessary “Positive Adaptation” to a Sick Civilization — Do you want your child to survive in a dog eat dog world of greed and corruption? Be successful and secure in a world where the odds are rigged against them? Come out on top during a time of scarcity and lack? Forget raising a child with empathy, morals and…Narcissism7 min readNarcissism7 min read
Mar 11Member-onlyObject Constancy & Whole Object Relations — The Root of All Narcissistic Personality DisordersHow can it be? How can a person with NPD treat you with such loving care for months, years, or even decades, then suddenly out of the blue treat you with such hatred and contempt? You have done absolutely nothing to invite the abrupt change. It is a humiliating, confusing…Narcissism8 min readNarcissism8 min read
Mar 4Member-onlyStop Re-traumatizing Victims of Narcissistic AbuseThere are many reasons they cannot ‘just get over it’, and your reactions may be causing additional harm — It’s like telling a person with no limbs, “Just get up and walk.” How is that going to happen? They have no legs. They need prosthetics, assistive devices, physical therapy, and many more forms of support to get moving. …Narcissism9 min readNarcissism9 min read
Published in Relationships Rules·Mar 1Member-onlyCollateral DamageThe person with NPD destroys everything and everyone in their path and only one force of nature is more destructive — One of the first things I remember about my catastrophic marriage to a person with narcissistic personality disorder and most likely antisocial personality disorder (also known as sociopathy), was when I took the ignorant and arrogant stance and announced to my reasonably concerned friends and family, “It is my life…Narcissism8 min readNarcissism8 min read
