Published in The Virago·PinnedMember-onlyRecovering from Trauma While the World BurnsThe Added Challenges of Recovery Amidst an Ongoing Pandemic, a Genocidal War, Dangerous Climate Changes, Home-Grown Terror, and Economic Disaster — 2019 was the tipping point — my husband abandoned our lengthy marriage, and the world began to unravel at an alarming pace. It was June 18th, 2019 when it all began, this descent into hell, and it has continued ever since. Things will never return to “that kind of normal”…Narcissistic Abuse8 min readNarcissistic Abuse8 min read
PinnedMember-onlyRe-write Your Story with a Happy EndingAfter the Narcissist Abandons and Deletes All Memory of You, You Can Reimagine a New Life — Tabula Rasa — Yes, there are two paths you can go by, but in the long run And there’s still time to change the road you’re on- Stairway to Heaven Some aspects of life are beyond your control, and I am reminded of that once again as a friend recently drew this card…Love5 min readLove5 min read
Published in Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Collaborators·PinnedMember-onlyThe Scrambled Brain of the NarcissistThe Structural Integrity of the Brain with NPD is Compromised — The cognitive dissonance in a relationship with an NPD partner is substantial, but perhaps it’s all in their head. Literally. In recent years, we can actually see narcissism in the brain shown in imaging tests like MRIs and CT scans. People who suffer from narcissistic personality disorder have structural abnormalities…Narcissism7 min readNarcissism7 min read
PinnedMember-onlyStuck in the BadlandsThe Black Hole After Narcissistic Abuse — “Now I lay me down to sleep I pray the Lord my soul to keep if I should die before I wake I pray the Lord my soul to take.” It’s been almost 2 years since the end of my marriage to a narcissistic psychopath. In the aftermath of his…Recovery10 min readRecovery10 min read
Published in About Me Stories·PinnedMember-onlyAbout Me — Prajinta PesquedaWe are the sum total of our experiences and define ourselves by what we do and who we love. — My identity has been forged by a number of things. Life was not kind to me as a bi-racial female growing up in the Texas Panhandle in the 60’s and ’70s. Not only was the environment inhospitable to say the least, but my family was also plagued with mental illness…Narcissism6 min readNarcissism6 min read
Published in Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Collaborators·Jan 27Member-onlyThe Power of Imagery in Healing Trauma and Archaic WoundsKatathym Imaginative Psychotherapy, Hallucinogens, and Light-Work Visualizations — “If you can imagine it, then it exists” due to the infinite nature of reality. You have probably heard this expression or one like it. The process of visualizing directs the subconscious to be aware of the end goal you have in mind. It reminds you on a consistent basis…Narcissism6 min readNarcissism6 min read
Published in New Choices·Jan 17Member-onlySomething Wicked This Way Comes, and it’s Not the NarcissistRecovering from Covert Abuse While the World Unravels Demands a Special Kind of Grit — D is for Damn it, the narcissist has wrecked your life! You are decimated, destroyed, dismembered. They are delusional, defiant, dangerous. And in the midst of all of the anguish and despair as you try to reimagine a new life and reconstruct a stronger, healthier version of yourself, the world…Narcissism6 min readNarcissism6 min read
Jan 13Member-onlyMental Illness is ContagiousPersonality Disorders are Positive Adaptations in a World Where Survival is the End Game — The deeply ingrained survival instinct is hardwired in human beings. And throughout time, we have adapted to circumstances in ways that would ensure our survival. Positive adaptation, sometimes called psychological resilience, is a psychological system of coping skills employed by people who are faced with traumatic events. …Narcissism7 min readNarcissism7 min read
Published in Relationships Rules·Jan 6Member-onlyTime is Marked by Memories, but Not for the DisorderedThe Narcissist is Incapable of Remembering the Past As we welcome 2023, we reflect on the passage of time and revisit the multitude of memories over the past year. We do this to measure our triumphs and failures and to reassess where we want to go as we move forward into a new year. We do it to…Narcissism8 min readNarcissism8 min read
Dec 30, 2022Member-onlyThe Narcissist’s Role in the Great AwakeningThe Transformation is Happening — Time to Pack Up and Get Ready for What is to Come — Three Perspectives about the Hollow Core from the Past Century I. “A considerable percentage of the people we meet on the street are people who are empty inside, that is, they are actually already dead. It is fortunate for us that we do not see and do not know it. If we knew what a number of people are actually…Narcissism9 min readNarcissism9 min read
